Each week, I read a wide variety of blog posts and articles across the internet. I wander here and wander there and before I know it I’ve spent an eternity avoiding all the work that I should have been doing by reading other people’s writing. I share my favorites here with you each week in the Weekly Wanderings link round-up. Enjoy!
- Life + Writing Prompts Vol. I & Vol. II – Untitled, 1975. We all know how I love collecting prompts. I put them in my notebook and flip to them to think about and then get a little bit more in-depth with. The more prompts the merrier in my life, and these ones are good.
- On the Work Itself – Dani Shapiro. I feel this quite a bit – particularly as I look back through my old posts (when you’ve been writing online for 13 years, there’s a lot of stuff out there), and I realize that that girl I was, that young woman, she gets further and further out of reach in some ways. But in others she is still right here. All of those things that worry my soul, still worry my soul. I think I’m better at dealing with them now, though.
- The 2015 Summer Reading Guide – Modern Mrs. Darcy. Who’s down to read some books this summer? I’ve got a lot of work to get done this summer, but I also want to indulge in reading. I’ve been disconnected from it for a long time, and it’s way past the point where I need to get back to it.
- Instagram Tips and Tricks – Digivate. These are pretty awesome and concise tips. I know I’m not using IG as much as I should, and it’s one of the things that is on my list to get much, much better at. These tips should help!
- How Can You Improve the World Today – Do What You Love. I particularly like 4 & 9.
- What You Can Do When You Can’t Change the World – Hello Neverland. I don’t pray necessarily because I am a non-believer, but I do believe that sending our intentions and energy out into the world can bring about change. I cannot change the situation that happened in my town this week, but I can advocate for compassion and care.
- There is Nothing Wrong With You: The Sex Edition – Rachel W. Cole. I think this is a message that so many women need to hear.
We’re told and sold on such a narrow and messed up concept of women’s sexuality, if we’re even given any concept at all. We don’t have role models in this culture for healthy, real sexuality, so many women are left to come to their own conclusion, which is often that something is wrong with them. Add to this that women’s bodies have been ground zero for centuries of abuse, trauma, shame, neglect, fear, and war.
Here’s the deal: for most women sex is, at least some of the time, a journey, complicated, exhilarating, vulnerable, messy, confusing, uncharted territory, scary, changing, painful, never-like-the-movies, and of course, pleasurable.
- How to Get Rid of Clutter You Care About – Be More With Less. This is particularly applicable for me right now. As we are hopefully preparing to move into a lovely new space, I want to go as free and unencumbered as possible. I know that all of those things that have remained in boxes and out of sight need to find new homes. And there are things that I love, that hold great meaning for me, that need to go as well.
- You Don’t Have to Apologize for Your Selfie – Vivienne McMaster. Interesting that I see this after I watched the Amy Schumer skit where the women scientists can’t get to having a panel discussion because they are all so busy apologizing. I do it all the time – apologize when I shouldn’t. I’m working on being better, but it’s a process.
- Three Rules for a Sexy, Successful Relationship – Alexandra Franzen. I can get behind these. Simple, to the point, and more importantly – true.
- Not Where You Want to Be? There are Many Paths to the Same Destination – Yes and Yes! This is an important reminder to me. I think many moments I’m not sure where I want to be, but I know it’s not where I am. Slowly, slowly, slowly things feel like they are coming together to provide me with what I need AND what I want. It just isn’t happening the way I thought it would. And that’s OK.
- 7 Tips for a More Equal Household – Meg Keene for A Practical Wedding. Again – another timely post as we are hopefully getting ready to move into a new space, but really it’s just a great read. Just recently, Sweet Husband said, “When we get into the new house, we need to divide up the chores again – decided what each one of us wants to do.” I’m hopeful that being home full-time will make that work better for us. Our system works pretty well right now, but it has some hiccups (hello litter box- yes she’s my cat, yes she became yours when you married me and you became the packmaster, no you don’t like it, yes she needs & deserves a clean space to do her business, yes it makes our entire house stink when you don’t clean the litter box, yes it makes your wife happy to not stick her hand in cat shit to clean the litter box out because you’ve done it once during the week. Ahem). I’d really like to get to a point where we can afford to hire someone to come in once a month to deep clean the house, but I don’t see that happening for a long while.
- Is Yelling the New Smacking? – Maxabella Loves. This one is particularly difficult for me to wrap my head around. I’m not a parent; may never be a parent. But. I work with little people all the time. And I work with adults who scream at little people. One of the things I notice is that after awhile, like anything – including corporal punishment, it loses its effectiveness. That teacher who is screaming at her class in August to get them under control? Might have it together in August…maybe into September. But later in the year? The babies just ignore her. More importantly for me, though, is that I don’t like to feel out of control. When I’m screaming and yelling, I recognize a situation where I’m out of control…which is a signal I need to do something differently.
- 10 Best Creative Writing Exercises – Write to Done. Every once in awhile, it’s a good idea to shake it up a little bit. I may print this out and put it in my writer’s notebook for those mornings when I’m stuck.
- How to Be a Creative Tour de Force – Jennifer Louden. This is interesting to me. I’m busying working on a mission statement for the blog and defining my ideal reader and thus my niche. As I come to what it is that I want to provide here, and reading this piece – asking myself what my core wound is – I go back to that little girl with the crayon storybook…and the pen marks correcting the spelling. There’s stuff there I need to explore further.
- 3 Lessons from the Imagination Paradigm – Karen Hutton. As I search for my style in editing my photos, this is a great reminder to me.
Our imagination springs from our most powerful, free and creative self; our very best, most awesome self. When you realize that we actually become what we think about most; well, Imagination takes on new importance. When our imaginations are invited to come out and play, all kinds of wonderful transforms into true possibility.
- Monday is a Mentality – Emma Gannon. I have a whole lot of dread for Mondays. I think part of the reason is that I’m not happy in the role that I currently occupy (I haven’t been happy in a job in a long time – should be a big flashing clue, no?) and part of it is the fact that I’m preparing to leave my home and family for most of the week. It makes it hard. But I’m hopeful that change is on the horizon – and that even if the job isn’t the one I necessarily want, I find a way to make it meaningful & productive.
- Hold Your Own Feet to the Fire – Zen Habits. After my visit to the doctor yesterday, I know there are some personal habits I need to change. And I know that there are some other habits that need a kick in the pants as well. I’m thinking of the right accountability measures now.
- A Post For Strong Women – Suger Coat It. I love this post. Particularly this:
Apparently you and I, we can be all the things. Or none of them. So if like me you are sick to death of being told I need to be something you’re not then go be yourself. And just quietly, that doesn’t have to be strong if you don’t want either. You get to be whatever you like, dress, do, think, act. However, you like. Stop believing everything they told you. Those people are rarely correct.
- 25 Random Things You Should Know About Personal Development – Live Bold & Bloom. 20 & 24 are speaking to me right now but they are all gems.
I think that about sums it up for me this week. What was good that you stumbled across over the last few days?