For anyone who has struggled with weight, our bodies and our relationships to them and to food are a very complex thing. Even knowing what I know about why I’m overweight and why I remain overweight, I fall prey to thinking that the equation is simple: less in and more out, eat less and exercise more.
Those things are only small pieces of the equation, though, and for me, it’s all so very much bigger, which is why this series of posts for me is about Wellness rather than weight. Weight is a piece of it but it’s not the only piece of it.
One of the things that I am most looking forward to outside of being home with Sweet Husband and our puppies is being in my own kitchen with the freedom and ability to prepare for myself the things that are most healthful for my body and the goals that I have for myself. While I have the best possible situation for my commuter marriage, I’m still living in someone else’s space. I’m also ready for a summer of fresh fruits and vegetables, of bounty and plenty, sweetness and light. This weekend in New Orleans, I had the most amazing spinach, strawberry, pecan, and feta salad, and I thought – I can eat that all summer long.
I’m also looking forward to getting up and walking along the beach every day. I’ve talked before about how the schedule of a teacher doesn’t quite suit my natural rhythms. This new job opportunity (please send some energy in the direction that they contact me soon) provides me with everything I want – an opportunity to care for myself via a schedule that works with my unique biorhythms. We walked all over New Orleans this past weekend, and it was a delight. While my quads and my calves were killing me from climbing the tower at Chalmette National Battlefield and Cemetery, it was pure joy to be moving.
But to get back to the Food Changes Everything series, this post was what really turned me on. I’m all about some strategies to help keep me on track – to help me be more mindful in the moment. And if you’re going to recommend that I take a nap? Double extra bonus points. All day long. I particularly like #6:
Be oh so gentle with yourself + respect your feelings. Chances are something has been building up over time to lead to this moment. Could you practice more kindness with yourself this week? Maybe that means letting go of those old rules about how things need to be done in a certain order before you take care of you. Leave the dishes in the sink + light a candle to soften the mood. It’s ok, advisable even to take care of you first.
I think it’s a powerful statement, and one that women in particular forget most of the time. We’re busy taking care of our homes, our families, our colleagues, our friends. That leaves very little time for taking care of us. I know that I put a lot of energy into everything else, and about the only thing that I leave for myself is time to write. I try to make sure that I am getting my morning pages done and that I’m posting on my blog, but beyond that, there’s not a lot. I meditate most nights because it helps me to sleep. I don’t even take enough time to take the photos I need to. Forget about caring for myself through the food that I eat or the choices I make in that arena.
The last line of the post is “Love yourself enough to do the work to change.” It’s powerful stuff. I’m not quite there yet, but I’m getting ready.
Where are you in relation to your journey with food? Let’s talk about it and get moving towards making better decisions together.