Because Sweet Husband and I just celebrated our second anniversary last month and because I feel like I talk about our relationship quite a bit, I’ve decided that at least for the next little while, my posts on Thursdays will be about marriage – some of the issues we face, the things that work for us, articles, perspectives, posts that I find useful in helping us create a stronger bond. Feel free to share what is working for you in your relationship as we spend some time focused on marriage.
Yesterday, Sweet Husband and I had been married for a grand total of 25 months. 25 whole months. It seems longer when you think about it like that – 25 versus a little over 2 years. During our first year of marriage, we had little monthly celebrations – monthiversaries – and I have to confess, I miss those a bit. They were never a big deal, but they were something. We might have gone out for a cheap dinner or made an extra effort at home for dinner. Perhaps had some dessert, which is rare for us. Something. We’ve lost track of that a bit.
But I’d like to get back to it.
I think there’s something to be said for the idea of celebrating your marriage and your relationship. I mean, during football season, we have little parties every weekend (even if it’s just me and SH having drinks and some fun appetizers) – why can’t we take a day out of the month to be happy and ridiculously in love?
There are ideas all over Pinterest for cheap date nights and I see no reason why we can’t make that happen…other than the obvious, which is that we aren’t always together on our anniversary. I remain hopeful that will change in the very near future, but until it does, there are other options that to be honest, we don’t make the greatest use of. Many years ago on a message board far away and long forgotten, a woman used to talk about how she and her sweetheart engaged in date while they were separated – they’d go to similar (or the same) restaurants in whatever cities they happened to be in and have dinner together, all the while talking on the phone to each other. With today’s technology, we can Facetime and chat in ways that weren’t available even just a few years ago – we forget to do it, though.
I decided yesterday for our 25th monthiversary, I’d pick up something for dinner on the way home – since I was driving home to the Coast last night. I told SH to have something to drink ready and waiting. When I got home, I think he had every candle we own burning. It’s been a long eight months, and while it’s almost at an end, the next few weeks will remain busy. Taking the night to celebrate us and what we have together was a great way to reconnect and get ready for all that is ahead of us. I was going to take pictures, but SH had just gotten done mowing the lawn and I was manning the grill. It didn’t make for the sexiest of photo ops. After months of little moments, it was good to have time together – doing normal things. It’s like I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
How do you celebrate your marriage and recognize it’s meaning and specialness? What are some of the things that y’all do to mark the milestones?