Each Wednesday I participate in Jamie Ridler’s Wishcasting. It’s time to put our intentions out into the world and ask for the fulfillment of our desires. Jamie posts a prompt each week, and people from all over the world share the desires of their hearts and souls. This week there was not a prompt from Jamie about Wishcasting. This week the post was about taking a step away because the family has gathered to begin the process of saying goodbye to their mother.
So this week, I am creating my own prompt, and that is, “In what ways do you wish to create ease or comfort?”
Primarily tonight, I wish for ease and comfort for Jamie and her family as they travel down this road and take these steps on this journey. Letting go of someone you love is extremely difficult, even when you have some time to prepare yourself for it, even when you know that it is “for the best”, and I hope that in the coming weeks, there are moments of exquisite tenderness and love that sustain them in the moments of wrenching grief.
For myself, I wish for the ease of knowing. I’ve been struggling for a long time with knowing what I’m supposed to be doing, and I recognize that this is a completely and totally arrogant wish. There are many people who go their entire lives without knowing…just doing whatever it is that they are supposed to be doing and making it work. I’d like to know. It would bring me comfort.
…and I know that there are those among us who are just trying to make it through the day. For them I wish for ease and comfort. When you don’t know where the basics are going to come from, when you aren’t sure what dinner is going to be because you don’t have anything available, it is difficult to experience joy in any form. Because I have been there in the past, for them, I wish for ease and comfort.
With this morning’s decision from the Supreme Court striking down the key part of 1996’s Defense of Marriage Act, I also wish for ease for this country. We care so much about what others are doing that we forget to care about what we are doing. My marriage is not threatened by anyone but Sweet Husband and myself. My marriage cannot be cheapened or diminished by anyone but the two of us and the choices that we make. If strengthening marriage is the goal, then Sweet Husband and I have to work to strengthen our marriage. It doesn’t matter who anyone else loves. As long as we are working hard to ensure the success of our marriage, not much else matters. And I wish that kind of ease of knowing that I have, along with some healing in this country. Love is love.
Anyway. In what ways are you wishing for ease this week? And how can you move yourself closer to that?