Each week, I read a wide variety of blog posts and articles across the internet. I wander here and wander there and before I know it I’ve spent an eternity avoiding all the work that I should have been doing by reading other people’s writing. I share my favorites here with you each week in the Weekly Wanderings link round-up. Enjoy!
- Infertility: A Grief No One Can See – Colleen Berge for Some Talk of You and Me. Some people know that Sweet Husband and I have struggled with infertility. It’s not something we have hidden because I believe that we need to talk more about infertility. So many women experience some kind of infertility, but because we don’t talk about it, most of us have no clue. It is painful. There is no way for it not to be. It doesn’t make sense why we don’t get to have children, but we both have students who’s problems are their parents – abusive, neglectful, absent. Nothing makes it make sense. We know that we are unwilling to go through IVF (at my age, it doesn’t make sense plus we’re teachers – ummmm…yeah. Cost), and we are thinking about adoption…but we aren’t sure yet how we want to proceed. All the decisions are hard; all of them are painful…and there are no easy answers.
- Screw Finding Your Passion – Mark Manson. It feels like Manson has posted something similar to this before, but it really resonates with me. It says the things I think and feel.
And even then, who says you need to make money doing what you love? Since when does everyone feel entitled to love every fucking second of their job? Really, what is so wrong with working an OK normal job with some cool people you like, and then pursuing your passion in your free time on the side? Has the world turned upside-down or is this not suddenly a novel idea to people?
Preach Brother Mark, Preach.
- Calligraphy for Beginners – Oh Everything Handmade. In addition to all of my other hobbies and passions, I want to get into hand-lettering. I’m pretty proud of my normal handwriting, and I’d really like to get better at being artistic about my lettering.
- The Amazing Benefits of Creative Time – Paige Turner for The Literacy Site. Good to know.
- The Most Beautiful “To-Do List” to Get Shit Done – You Can Brand. I’m a sucker for a good to-do list, and I’ve been looking for something new. Trello didn’t do it for; Evernote note doesn’t really do it for me. I’ve been using Awesome Note, but it’s not as comprehensive. I’m excited to give this a try.
- The Net Won’t Always Appear…But Sometimes It Does – Sense of You. I believe that when we leap, the net does appear. Eventually. Sometimes it takes a really, really, really long time. I worked away from home for 2 years…waiting for my net. And during that time, I worked. I just didn’t wait – I worked. And things have come together in ways that I could have never imagined.
- How to Figure Out What You’re Good At (Not Just What You’re Passionate About) – Whitney Johnson for the muse on Mashable. I like that there is a distinction there between what I’m good at and what I’m passionate about. I think these questions will be good ones for me to consider in my journal. The answers aren’t readily available to me because pieces of my past are missing, but I think if I sit with it for a bit, it’ll come clear to me.
- Are You Ready to Take a Different Approach to Your Goal-Setting and Reaching? – Julie Jordan Scott. I wish I felt like this is something that worked for me. It looks like such a beautiful way to approach my goals. I think I’m going to try a version of it…sans the art journaling. Because that isn’t my thing.
- 5 Easy Steps to Make Your Own Blog Header – Sweet Jelly Bean. I’m going to play around with this tutorial later this week. I haven’t been happy with my header for quite awhile, but I have no idea how to actually fix it. Until I pay someone for all new branding (which will happen in the next few months), I’m on the DIY train.
- Of NaPhoPoMo and the Advent of Light – Chookooloonks. One of my goals in the next couple of weeks is to take many, many more photos. Even though I am sidelined with rehabbing my shoulder, I can certainly use my phone to take photos and then I will be prepared for when I can pick my camera up again.
- Take a Walk Around the Lake – Be More With Less. This is an important reminder for me. There is so much to do, and I don’t do a good job of figuring out the balance (neither does Sweet Husband). We worked hard this weekend, and then we curled up and enjoyed the rain. I was telling myself that I needed to be out in the garage or in my office but there were things more important.
- Self-Appreciation: The Flip Side of Self-Compassion – Self Compassion. I am not so good at the self-appreciation gig. I’m quick to make excuses for what I can do, downplaying it and making less of it than it really is.
The sense of common humanity inherent to self-appreciation means that we appreciate ourselves not because we’re better than others, but because all people have goodness in them. To appreciate others’ goodness while ignoring our own creates a false division between us and them. But as a distinctive expression of the universal human condition that animates all our experience, we honor everything when we honor ourselves. As the Zen master Thich Nhat Hahn writes, “You are a wonderful manifestation. The whole universe has come together to make your existence possible.” Celebrating our achievements is no more self-centered than having compassion for our failings. We can’t really claim personal responsibility for our gifts and talents. They were born from our ancestral gene pool, the love and nurturing of our parents, the generosity of friends, the guidance of teachers, and the wisdom of our collective culture. Appreciation for our good qualities, then, is really an expression of gratitude for all who have shaped us as individuals.
- What If You Didn’t Give Up – Alexandra Franzen. I needed to read this right now. As I’m making decisions about where I want my blog and my creativity to go, sometimes it seems like it might just be easier to hang it up and let it all go.
And that’s what I’ve been reading this week. What has been on your list? Let me know in the comments!