- The Craft Beer Guide to Mississippi – Paste Magazine. Are you a beer drinking? We enjoy beers – from the highfalutin to the Silver Bullets, beer makes us happy (Sweet Husband more so than me). We’ve hit 3 of these breweries. If you’re in MS, give one (or all?) a shot!
- 8 Suggestions for New Journal Writers– How to Make a Life. These are great tips if you’re new to the practice of journaling and/or morning pages (I’m a HUGE believer in morning pages).
- How to Survive in a Job You Hate – Twinkle Little Soul. I’ve really kinda sorta hated the jobs that I’ve had for the last 7-8 years. Not necessarily because of the job but because it wasn’t where I wanted to be or because it demanded too much of my time. While I hope that will be over in a few short weeks, there are some great tips in this post to help make it through.
- The Peace of Wild Things – Knitting the Wind. There is peace in the wilderness, and there is peace in post. Gorgeous.
- How to Apologize When You’ve Done a Shitty Thing – Gingerous. Given the Duggar scandal this past week, and some interactions I’ve had with colleagues recently, this is a great primer for how to apologize and mean it.
- The 30 Day Learning Challenge – Zen Habits. I don’t know if I’m going to sign up for the challenge because I think I probably already have enough on my plate for the month of June with hopefully moving into *our* house and finding a new job. But there are some great tips on how to successfully implement change.
- Josh Duggar Allegations: We’re So Used to Giving Famous Men the Benefit of the Doubt – Lindy West for the Guardian. If you follow me on Instagram or Twitter, you know that I’ve been bothered by the Duggar allegations (although they aren’t allegations – Duggar has admitted it. It’s the truth). Sickened really. This article makes a point about famous, powerful men that bears thinking about.
What’s frightening is that we’re so accustomed to giving powerful, famous men the benefit of the doubt that, on a cultural level, we treat men’s reputations with the same reverence as victims’ safety. “Sure, it’s important to protect the vulnerable and sexually traumatised or whatever, but what about that nice man’s TV show? He worked really hard for that! You can’t just take away a man’s stuff!”
The result is a system in which victims often find themselves on trial in their own rape proceedings; a culture in which silence is incentivised and speaking out is often punished; a world in which we have ample vocabulary for comforting the accused (“I’m waiting to hear all the facts,” “we can’t jump to conclusions,” “who can even make sense of consent these days?”) but precious little for victims(when’s the last time you heard a simple, unqualified “I believe you” outside of the feminist blogosphere?).
- The Strange Pull of What You Really Love – Andrea Scher. For me it’s photography. I’ve always thought it was writing, and I’d say writing is a close second but lately taking over the top spot is photography. You?
- Holding on for Dear Life – Be More with Less. Right now this is where I’m at – holding on for dear life. Numbers 5, 6, & 7 are getting me through right now.
- Wouldn’t it be Awesome if We Just Had to be Aware of Mental Health One Month a Year? – the Bloggess. There are so many people who suffer and who are aware of it all. the. time. Mental illness runs on both sides of my family, and I am always constantly in fear that something is going to go wrong in or with my head. I’m constantly checking myself – is this a normal reaction? Is that a normal thought? It’s exhausting. (& yes, I realize that that kind of obsessive thought might be a problem)
- How American Parenting is Killing the American Marriage – Danielle Teller & Astro Teller for Quartz. I totally agreed with the women who said that their children come second to their husband, which is not to say that their children are being neglected. I wasn’t the center of my parents’ world. It didn’t harm me. It made me independent, and I think that was a very good thing. Sweet Husband and I may never have children, and that is OK. But. If we do – I can promise that we will continue to prioritize our relationship.
- Street Photography: 12 Lessons Learned – Karen Hutton. I’m hoping to get some street photography done this next week, and numbers 9 & 10 will be guiding me.
- You Must Give Up the Life You Planned in Order to... – Jennifer Louden. I’m struggling with this idea right now. I’ve said it many, many times – that you have to be prepared to give up the hopes and dreams you had in order to step into the life you want. It’s not necessarily, as Jen says, that easy. There is comfort in the plan, the dream, the hope. In the doing, there is often uncertainty and backtracking, stops and starts. I’m trying to remember to be here in this moment, fully.
- The Greatest Wisdom from Roald Dahl Books for All Moments in Grown-Up Life – Stylist. I love Roald Dahl, and these quotes – I think there are a few that I want to turn in to some art for in my new office.
- Keep Writing the Damn Alphabet – Alexandra Franzen. I need to remember this. Just keep moving forward. Eventually I’ll get where I’m going.
Some miracles do not come easily or quickly. Some goals, as my friend Nicole puts it, require “thousands of tiny, unsexy steps.”
It’s tempting to give up after one or two frustrating sessions. Tempting to say, “Well, obviously, that’s just not for me. I quit.”
- Finding Your Calling – Finding Neverland. I still don’t know what my calling is. you’d think after that whole Ph.D. thing, I’d know, but I don’t. I’m hoping that moving into a slightly different environment will give me some direction and guidance. It’s nice to know that stumbling is OK, perhaps even expected.
- Why is it so Hard to Shine – Jamie Ridler. Another piece that I needed to read right now.
Everything in our life that is comfortable but not-quite-right will chafe. Everything. As we wake up to ourselves and our light, things we’ve tolerated will no longer be acceptable to us and we will no doubt find ways that we are no longer acceptable to others. The family, friends, community that we are connected to will notice that something’s changed. They will start to see something we have known all along, that we don’t quite fit – and that is terrifying.
- The Art of Journaling: Discover Your Voice – Life Captured, Inc. I think I’ve gotten my journaling voice downpat, but if you are looking to develop a practice, this is a great place to begin some thinking about it.
- 15 Ways to be the Happiest Person You Know – Your Courageous Life. I really love numbers 2, 5, 10, 14, & 15. If I did more of those, I think I’d be good.
- June Prompts – The Habit of Being. Life + Writing Prompts, Vol. V – Untitled, 1975 (which links to previous volumes). June Writing Prompts – The Pagan Experience.
There are a couple of other collections of writing prompts that usually come out some time towards the end of the month, but they haven’t posted yet. I’ll be sure to include them for next week’s list.
What have you been reading this week?