Sometimes what you need is a quiet weekend at home. It feels like it has been forever since we had one of those. Not a lot of excitement, not a lot to do other than just relax and be with each other. It might not have all of the flash and excitement of some of our other weekends, but it definitely hit the spot – certainly a weekend unwind for us.
Which is not to say that the weekend was not without its excitement. Sweet Husband came north Friday night because we had a birthday party to attend on Saturday. Plus with the weather changing and some friends in from out of town, it seemed like the perfect time to have a bonfire. We didn’t make it to any bonfires last year, so the burn pile at Gumbo Acres was large and in charge. Shortly after SH and the puppies arrived Friday afternoon, he set out to get things just right for the fire.
Unfortunately, I didn’t make it out to the festivities. I have been feeling a bit like hell lately – not sure if it’s because I got a flu shot or because I managed to pick up whatever my students have been snotting all over my classroom, but I took some cold medicine Friday afternoon when I got off work and went to bed. I was up, but I didn’t think that heading out and spending the evening in the smoke and the lower temperatures was in my best interest. So while SH and friends were enjoying adult beverages and watching the fire burn down, I was working on posts, editing photos, and watching an Outlander marathon on the television, snuggled up with my puppies. All-in-all, not a terrible way to spend a Friday night. I hate that I missed seeing our friend Justin, visiting from North Carolina, but I think staying inside was the better choice for me.
Saturday we were up and out for a Princess’s first birthday party. It’s always good to see our friends, and sweet Gracen is such a darling little girl. It’s hard not to be happy when you have such wonderful people around you.
We left the party and made our way home, only to have a lovely, long nap together. I guess maybe it’s something about fall that makes the desire to cocoon and rest so strong. We both just sorta passed out, and when we got up, it was another quiet night at home. We watched football, ordered pizza, laughed and talked.
One of the things that we talked about was our marriage. It’s difficult to maintain strong bonds and a healthy relationship when you aren’t spending time together. One of the things that we talked about was the comfortability and trust in our relationship. If we couldn’t trust each other, if we didn’t believe in us, this thing that we are doing absolutely would not work. It takes a great leap of faith to let your spouse go for the majority of the week and then to not constantly check-up on each other.
I’m not sure at all how we came to be in this place, but I’m grateful for it. We are strong and healthy in spite of our neglect, which makes me wonder how much better we would be if we put more effort into us. And it makes me wonder about those relationships that make it and those that don’t. I’d like to think that the fact that we are a little older and more sure of ourselves and what we want plays into the success of our relationship. We both waited awhile to get to where we are. We both respect each other and the strengths we bring to the relationship, and I think that matters as well.
More than that, though, I’ve been thinking the last couple of days about a new series for the blog – focused on relationships and marriage. I’d love to do a series of interviews with couples that have managed to make it work. What advice would they give to younger couples? What do they think makes the difference in the relationship? How do they come back from the brink? It’s still in the thinking stage – I’m wondering about questions. What would I want to ask these people? What would give those who are currently struggling a sense of hope? Or something to hang on to while they navigate the difficulties of their relationships? And then, of course, there is the question of who to ask those questions of. I have a couple of couples in mind…a few that I have watched over the years and thought, “they’ve got it together.” But to make it a series, I’d need more than those couple of couples.
Like I said, it’s all still in the thinking stage. If you have suggestions, or people that you think I might want to put on my Need To Talk To About This List, let me know.
Today we have continued to be lazy and wrapped up together. SH went out to fish with friends early this morning, and he’s considering making that a regular part of his morning routine. Says it’s peaceful. I guess that means that he can understand what it means for me to write every morning. It is peaceful. And it gets me off to a good start. We’ve also spent the day watching football; it’s what we do during the fall.
Like I said, not a terribly exciting weekend, but one that gives us the opportunity to reconnect, and that is perhaps even more important than excitement. How did you spend your weekend? Do anything fun?
As it is Sunday, that means it is time to set intentions for the coming week. It’s a short week for me as we are heading to Austin Friday for SH’s uncle’s wedding. I’ve only been through Austin, and it’s going to be a quick trip, but it should be fun. In order to make the most of the time we have away, I’m going to have to make sure that I’m on top of my intentions for the week.
- Stay on top of grades and required paperwork
- Have lessons planned and ready to go before I leave work on Thursday so I can come back to work on Tuesday and not worry about what still needs to be done
- Pull together he materials needed for mid-year applications
- Apply for CEUs for workshop from a week ago
- Turn in expense report to be reimbursed for dinners and mileage for workshop
- Write every day
- Photograph every day
- Walk for at least 30 minutes each day
- Eat healthfully each day
- Practice something from Chantelle’s Ways to Be Kind post
- Install new framework and theme (breaking down and purchasing the Genesis framework and a child theme)
- Schedule posts for the weekend so I can enjoy Austin without the pressure of needing to publish
- Make better use of twitter & Instagram
- Comment on other blogs
- Create an editorial calendar that will begin November that is one that I can live with and gives me the freedom to have a life outside of the blog
How about you? What are you planning for the coming week? How are you looking to find balance between the things you have to do and the things you want to do?