I suppose it is a good thing that I call this post “weekend unwind” because this weekend, much more so than any other that I can remember in a long time, there is much to unwind. It’s not that it has been a bad weekend; it’s been another one of those weekends – filled with people and things to do and good times. But at the same time, there was hard stuff. I suppose that in that sense, it’s not much different than any other weekend ever.
I didn’t go home Friday night because we had a bunch of stuff to do in Hattiesburg this weekend – a tiny man’s birthday party, the kick-off to football season with all the Saints fanatics at Gumbo Acres, in general just a bunch of stuff. It didn’t make sense for me to travel to the Coast when we were going to spend our weekend in Hattiesburg. So I didn’t. And Sweet Husband didn’t come up Friday night because he had school work to do and he needed to cut the grass and after a long week at work, the hour drive to Hattiesburg was a bit much.
And that was, I suppose Ok because I was tired. Exhausted really. I had several nights this week with about 3.5 – 4 hours of sleep, and then no afternoon nap, which meant that I had a really, really hard time staying awake on the drive back to Hattiesburg Friday morning (I went home Thursday night). So I was OK with SH not coming up Friday night – that meant I had the entire bed to myself, and I could sleep undisturbed. As awesome as marriage is, sometimes it’s really nice to be able to sleep in the bed by yourself – no dogs, no snoring, no other person twitching and disturbing you.
Saturday morning I actually wound up sleeping 3 hours later than I normally do, which means I slept until 7:00 rather than crawling out of the bed at 4:00. Or 3:00.
Saturday was a race. We attended sweet Walker’s first birthday party Saturday afternoon but that meant there was a whole lot of work to get to that point. Shopping to do, presents to buy. Hair to do.
I didn’t get to write Saturday morning because there was so much else that needed to happen. I think if I’d had an opportunity to write Saturday morning, Saturday night wouldn’t have been so hard.
I didn’t stay for the adult-only party after the baby’s birthday party because I had school work to do and because I was exhausted. I got back to the house, laid down and promptly went to sleep for two hours. I’m still tired. It’s like bone-deep exhaustion settling in; I have to make an appointment with my doctor this week for a routine check-up, and I’m going to ask about this fatigue. I haven’t been tired like this in a really long time.
Exhaustion..and hunger…probably contributed to how icky Saturday night became.
One of the things that I have to keep reminding myself is that having a commuter marriage is difficult. It takes a whole lot more work to make it work. I remember it being hard last year, but I don’t remember these kinds of struggles. I had an inkling that we needed to make more of an effort last week, which is why I brought our Love Languages devotional with me. Unfortunately, I didn’t make time to call SH and actually do the devotional last week. It’s difficult to remain connected when you are far apart; it always takes more of an effort. I have to remember that and it needs to move to a greater priority on my list of things to do.
And that is really the big take-away from this weekend. I could talk about our awful sports day (thanks Cowboys and Saints). We had a great time with our friends and really enjoyed the atmosphere of a big Saints party; living on the Coast, we miss that time with our friends.
Really, though, this weekend is all about remembering that good marriages – strong marriages – don’t just happen. They take a lot of work. Care. Monitoring. Checking in. Making sure that we remain on the same page. None of that is easy even when you live together full-time. It’s harder when you live apart.
The goals this week haven’t really changed except for needing to give more priority to my marriage.
How was your weekend? I hope it was full of lots of victories and great times.
Posts You May Have Missed This Week:
Wordless Wednesday – Mississippi State’s opening weekend
Photo Friday – Garden Spider and Friend
Don’t Forget to Look Up – when you’re working towards a goal, occasionally look up and make sure you’re still on the right path