Oh this weekend! If I could bottle it up and keep it – pull it out whenever I need a pick me up – I would. It was perfect in just about every way, which was exactly what I needed.
It doesn’t hurt that Friday was Valentine’s Day, and I’m married to perhaps one of the biggest romantics there is, the man who once drove to Louisville for Valentine’s Day and was going to surprise me by cleaning my apartment.
It was all so much more poignant because Friday was such a terrible day at work. Possibly due to the full moon or maybe due to the hype of a holiday, the children were what we refer to as “off the chain”. Actually they’ve been “off the chain” all week. There was a terrible fight in my room on Monday, and then Wednesday afternoon there was a terrible fight after school. On Thursday, kids who are normally rather well-adjusted, were rude, disrespectful and insubordinate.
And Friday. *sigh*
One of my students flipped me off and had to be removed from the classroom. While I was dealing with that, another student called me a bitch. As soon as I got that student taken care of, the first student came back into my class – the secretary and SRO right behind him. He looked at me, tears in his eyes, and said, “I hate you. I’m going to hit you in your fucking face.” I was trying to decide if he was serious when he reared back. The secretary stepped between us and the SRO grabbed him from behind. Those actions were all that kept me from being hit.
I continue to have lots of mixed emotions about what happened and the consequences of that child’s decisions. I get that it’s not my fault; that this kid has been making terrible decisions for a long time. But it is still difficult because what is now out of my hands is not why I got into teaching.
So by the time I got home to Sweet Husband, I was ready for whatever he had planned.
He met me at the car to help me bring my bags in, and then the Valentine’s scavenger hunt began. The first clue was in my flowers, and the rest of them took me all over the house and into the yard. One of my clues just happened to be a perfect gin martini. My present was in my camera bag, and March 15, I’m going to be attending a photography workshop with two of my coastal photography idols – Alex North and Jason Taylor. I’m very excited about this workshop. I’m hoping that I get a great refresher on what I already know and start learning how to use the Manual setting on my Big Girl Camera.
After the scavenger hunt, we made our way to dinner.
It was a Valentine’s Day for the books.
It’s funny that I didn’t used to particularly care for Valentine’s Day. Even when I was in a relationship. It was just another day with a little added expectation on top for good measure. Eh. No big deal. But the last five Valentines Days have been perfect, and I look forward to them – seeing what Sweet Husband has up his sleeve this year. He never fails to disappoint me. I’m blessed.
Saturday, we got up and made our way out to do some shopping, all as part of my continued Valentine’s weekend. Sweet Husband has needed a dresser since we moved into this house over two years ago, but hasn’t bought one. In the last month or so I’ve gotten very motivated to find him a dresser. As part of this nesting phase I’m going through, whatever I find, I’m planning to use chalk paint to refinish. So on Saturday, we made our way out to a few different thrift shops and used furniture stores, as well as a couple of new furniture stores because Sweet Husband said, “Well, why don’t we just buy new furniture for the bedroom? We’ve got the money to do it, so let’s look.”
It so happens that at the Salvation Army, we found the perfect bedroom suite. Everything there – headboard, footboard, dresser, chest, two nightstands. For all of them, it would have been about $800. For just the dresser, chest, and nightstands, a little over $500. I wasn’t ready to make that kind of commitment at that point, but I couldn’t quit thinking about the furniture. We didn’t make it back by there before the Salvation Army closed, and they aren’t open on Sundays.
Sweet Husband has his orders for tomorrow afternoon: he is to go there when he gets off work and begin the process of negotiation. $350 for all four pieces. And if that doesn’t work, $300 for the dresser and chest (the individual prices for those two pieces are about $340). And if they don’t bite on either of those, then the full price for the dresser and chest; we’ll wait on the nightstands because frankly – at $85 each, they’re over-priced. I know the furniture is still there because I peered in the window. However, I hope that they are still there when Sweet Husband gets there after work. It would be perfect. (cross your fingers for us, please…and then as the head and footboard sit there, which at the price that is listed, I think they will, we can pick those up later)
After we did our shopping and had lunch at a great little cajun buffet, we went to Lowe’s so we could do the first YardWork Saturday ™. We spent a good two hours turning the compost bin, raking up the leaves in the yard, cleaning up all the trash that gets left in our yard from the folks at the Salvation Army emergency shelter across the street, picking up the dog poo, and spraying the yard with a weed killer to hopefully help take care of the sand burr problem. The compost bin is now full again, and we’re about ready to begin the process of stalking plants at Lowe’s and making the front yard beautiful again.
I am sore from the bending and stretching. My arms are tired and there is a lovely tightness in my mid-back and my legs. It’s been a long while since we have done anything out there in the yard. I’m ready for the sunshine and the work and the end results. In the next couple of weeks, we’ll be building a few new raised beds and getting ready for a garden. I want to rent a tiller and get a few beds created – scatter some zinnia and sunflower seeds, plant some hydrangeas and gladiolus.
Once we got our work done, it was on to enjoying our evening. I did some more shopping without the husband – got canvases for an art project that I’ll be tackling over spring break – and bought groceries.
Because I bought Sweet Husband a pool table for Valentine’s Day, we spent Saturday night breaking it in. I suck at pool. Probably because I have no spatial reasoning ability. None, I tell you. It’s really difficult for me to see the lines and figure out the angles. Sweet Husband is excellent at pool, though, and he’s making an effort to teach me. I was making a few decent shots by the time we were done. Because he scratched on the 8 Ball, I actually wound up winning the first game on the pool table. I also wound up winning the first game of darts as well. A few weeks ago, we found a dart board at one of our local salvage stores for $10, and it is now hanging in the mancave as well. Just between us, I am much better at darts than I am at pool. I like darts.
The mancave is turning in to quite the hangout spot. Pool table, darts, beer fridges, television, stereo, man tools. Cannot wait for folks to come over and have a good time with us there.
We broke out the grill Saturday night and made perfect ribeyes, which were complemented by a great salad and baked potatoes. We came inside to enjoy dinner, some drinks, and catching up on our DVR list.
Today has been all about laziness. I got up and wrote while Sweet Husband continued to sleep. We made a late brunch and had a few bourbon maries. While I worked on getting our taxes done, Sweet Husband went to work and did his lesson plans. My lesson plans still are not done. Neither is the grade analysis that I was supposed to do. That’s OK, though; tomorrow is a professional development day. I’ll get it taken care of then. A nap and some laundry has rounded out the day.
Perfect weekend. Just an absolutely perfect weekend. I have loved every minute of it, and I’m incredibly sad that it’s time for it to be done. These weekends are what makes the week bearable.
As we wind down, it’s time for me to begin thinking about the coming week and my intentions for it. As I was very successful in getting up every morning and doing my morning pages, I certainly want that to continue. This morning as I was writing, I said that I didn’t know if we would ever have children, but if we did or didn’t, I wanted to make sure that I have a strong cadre of self-care habits to draw on. Morning pages are an important part of that.
This week, I’d like to add the following:
- Exercise. I’ve had it on my list for the last couple of weeks, and this is the week that I intend to actually make it happen.
- Reading. I’ve been hit or miss, but I want it to be more consistent. Perhaps when I’m walking on the treadmill at the in-laws would be a great time to kill two birds with one stone.
- Enter grades
- Take more photos
- Send the packages that have been mouldering in the kitchen for months now.
- Mindfulness – I meditated several nights this week. I want to make that a consistent habit.
I’m finally beginning to feel better about this year. It feels like everything is starting to fall in to place, and I’m excited about where we can head.
How was your weekend? And what are your plans for the week? Let me know in the comments!