With this post, I’ll be caught back up until tomorrow. Yay! Today’s prompt comes from Tenaciously Yours, and I have to say that a lot of what she says I could use hearing. So, without further ado, the thinking for this evening.
Friendship: What was it like for you to be a friend to others this year? Did you rekindle an old friendship? Strengthen a current friendship? Make friends with someone you didn’t think was “your type?”
Because we moved to a new place, this year has certainly provided me with several opportunities to make new friends. At the beginning of the year, that was a little confused because the crazy pyscho ex-boss wanted me within her grasp, which meant that I couldn’t truly be “friends” with people who are the naturals for me to be friends with. I spend most of my time at work. That’s where I’ve met people.
Since July, though, the restrictions have eased, and I’m making new friends. Good friends. We spend a lot of time together at work, which is great, but I think we’ve got to remember that we need to spend time together after work. Perhaps after the beginning of the year, I’ll think about organizing a monthly girls dinner with the people that I work with. Perhaps a pinterest party.
But outside of work, I want to make more friends. I think when I was in Kentucky, I was too reserved, and I knew it as it was happening. I wasn’t putting myself out there as much as I should have. But I’d like to do that now. I love this life I’m living, but I keep coming back to the idea of balance. In the linked post above, Kat says that we get to decide how big our tent is. I’d like for my tent to be really big. I want those close connections with others.
So. How do I go about that? I know that one of my co-workers was talking about her book club. I asked if I could attend, and she said yes. Now I need to remind her of that, see if that offer is still open. I think I need to contact these people and see about joining. I also need to investigate the possibility of a writer’s group. I think I could benefit from being in a writer’s group. I need to connect with the Live Oak Writing Project to see if there’s room for me there. I don’t know that I will ever want to be involved in the writing project again in the way I used to be (or if that’s even a possibility), but writing project people are my people, and I’d like to hang with them again.
Which is not to say that my old friends aren’t valuable. I need to make more of an effort at staying connected with them. I think it’s way past time for the NGOHs to ride again. We’ve got to get something planned. And I need to get better about remaining connected to far-flung friends — send the texts, emails, and little happies in the mail. They are just as important as the new friends I’m making.