Today my guest prompt is featured with Kat McNally. Kat asked me to submit a prompt and an image, and I can’t tell you honored I was. I enjoy participating in her projects so very much and to be asked to actually do more than just respond is humbling.
The prompt and accompanying image are as follows:
The hectic pace of our lives can make it difficult to remain connected to the things and the people that matter the most to us. We get wrapped up in our work or our busyness and connection falls by the wayside.
How have you created and/or sustained connections in your life this year?
It is perhaps a bit ironic that I chose this to be my prompt. I am one of those people who needs to be more connected. Connected is one of my Core Desired Feelings. , but over the last couple of years I have not been as connected as I should be. I’m not sure what has happened – I don’t have less time than I ever have, but I’m not making the effort that I have in the past.
I think I have always loved the postal system. When I was a very, very young girl, my uncle Steve was in the US Navy and he used to send me letters from wherever he was stationed. My mom was also a truck driver – starting when I was in the 1st grade. She used to send my brother and I postcards from all of the places that she traveled. For the longest time, I kept all of those postcards. We also moved around a bit, and I used to collect the addresses from friends before we headed off to the next destination. I was always a *huge* letter writer. In high school, one of my girlfriends and I used to exchange letters that were pages and pages. for the longest time, I sent out masses of cards just because – for random holidays like St. Patrick’s Day, the 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Halloween. And Christmas cards? I have always loved Christmas cards.
But for the last couple of years I’ve been terrible about keeping in touch. I still have a cabinet full of stationery (I had to buy a cabinet to house it all – I had (have) that much), but it goes unused. I bought Christmas cards last year and never even sent them.
Which is not to say that I don’t stay connected – just not as much as I’d like to be and not in the ways that used to be very important to me.
I’ve never been a big telephone person – I don’t remember sitting on the phone for hours when I was a teenager. Unless I was talking to a boyfriend or it was one of the rare occasions when I got to call a friend from home. These days it’s so easy to send an email or a text message. My mom, who lives approximately 2500 miles away from me, and I communicate primarily through text message or facebook messenger. Monday through Friday, one of my best friends and I email back and forth multiple times throughout the day.
There are all these avenues of communication that I don’t take advantage of, particularly with Sweet Husband. SH and I primarily text each other. Every now and again we have brief phone conversations. But we both have iPhones and the capability of Facetiming with each other. We don’t ever do that. I have some very sweet post cards with sweet love messages on them that I don’t send.
I have very dear friends that I don’t call or text or email. And it’s not because I don’t miss them or don’t think about them. I do.
So I have a plan for 2015, which starts with getting our Christmas cards sent out. Hopefully tomorrow I’ll get our Christmas letter worked out tomorrow. (it feels like we should be sending Christmas letters at this point in our life. I don’t know if anyone actually reads them or not, but I do)
And from there, I’m adding “Connection” to my monthly intentions – creating a list of people to reach out to that month and going from there. it might be a list of folks to send a note to, someone else to call, another person to send an email to.
I think it becomes a matter of creating a habit with Sweet Husband. When I want to text him, perhaps I’ll hit the Facetime option instead. And I’m going to put some of those cute postcards in my writer’s notebook so I’m prepared to send him something on a regular basis (there are stamps in the back pocket of my writer’s notebook). This post from Sarah Kathleen Peck has some great tips for getting into the habit of writing more notes, and I need start incorporating those.
What about you? How are you keeping connected?