Each week, I try to collect the best of the articles, essays, and blog posts that I read and share them with you. There are generally a ton of great ones out there, and I’m always looking for new material to read. I hope you enjoy them!
- Where Have All the Friendships Gone – Liana Silva-Ford. I have read several articles lately about how difficult it is to make friendships as an adult, and I agree. I have difficulty as I move around the country making – and more importantly, keeping – friendships, and as Sweet Husband and I have moved away from our core group of friends, we find that it is difficult to make friends as a married couple. What I find most poignant about this essay, though, is this paragraph:
…here are several friends I lost along the way to Ph.D. And I still wonder about them. Maybe even without a child and a move across the country, we’d have grown up and grown apart. Maybe we’d have just kept growing and meeting different people. Or maybe I could have tried harder…
That hits hard as my oldest and best friend and I have just gone through a rough spot. Even friendships that are almost 30 years in duration sometimes come to points where you wonder if you could try harder or if you are growing up and growing part and the gulf is too far to even attempt to cross.
- All About Prime Lenses and Focal Length – A Beautiful Mess. This is a great primer for folks who are newer to DSLRs and lenses. I’ve been thinking that I want a new lens, but it’s so very difficult to figure out what exactly I want. This has great info for me. It’s good to know that since my BGC is not a full-frame camera, I need to go with a smaller focal length – I’d been thinking about perhaps a nifty 50, but I will probably need a 35 or 28 mm instead. Or if I was thinking about an 85 mm, a 50 is what I need.
- How to Diffuse Conflict (almost) Instantly & Get Angry People to Calm Down + Be Cool – Alexandra Franzen. After another day where a student threatened to hit me in the face, this was a great read for me. I’m not sure how this could have helped/worked this afternoon, but…I can see it working in other situations.
- Operate Like the World is Already Listening – also by Alexandra Franzen. I need to remember this. Just keep at it. Build it and they will come.
- 10 Things to Add to a Simple Life – Be More With Less. I really like #9, and I need more of #2.
- A Surprising Key to Creativity: Sleep – Jamie Ridler. Given my Wellness post this week, this was a divine moment of synchronicity.
- 13 Ways to Savor and Serve – Jennifer Louden. I really need to internalize #5.
- Fear’s Long Stride – Quinn Creative. I need to read and re-read this. I feel like right now I’m in the grips of fear, not knowing where I’m going or how things are going to turn out, and I don’t even know how to begin to move forward.
- Do You Take Work For Granted or With Gratitude? – Janet Choi at the iDoneThis blog. I don’t think it’s a secret that I’ve been frustrated lately. This post reminds me that a lot of what happens in my life is up to me – a lot of what happens in my work day is dependent upon me. I can be grateful for it or I can take it for granted. It might not be the job I want but it’s a job and it provides well for us. That is something that should not be taken for granted. Also – I think I’m going to reinstall my iDoneThis app. There’s some research to show that rather than a to-do list, we should keep track of our accomplishments. I’m willing to give it a shot. Again.
- You Can’t Build a Reputation on What You Intend to Do – Scraps of My Geek Life. I think this may be my link of the week (if I have such a thing). I recently wrote out my goals and plans for the summer and I’m coming to realize that writing things down is only the first step. I have plenty of intentions; I don’t have plenty of accomplishments (giving that a moment to sink in). At almost 38 that should probably change, shouldn’t it? I’ll be using the free printable and seeing if I can’t get any closer to where it is I ultimately want to be by being a bit more intentional about it all.
- Three Suggestions for Proper Expectations – The Other Side of Complexity. The Universe in all her wisdom and majesty has been telling me lately that my expectations need some realignment. I get it. I think. Or I probably don’t really. I’m truly good with number 1 on the list but I recognize that I need to do some work with numbers 2 and 3.
- Amy Schumer’s Amazing Speech About Body Acceptance & Confidence. I think many women struggle with accepting their bodies just as they are and rocking those bodies just as they are. I’ve come to know and love my body for what it is, not what it isn’t. It’s not to say that I don’t think I could use some improvement (particularly as it concerns my health – weight and the rest of it would be a by-product of improving my health), but I’m good with me just as I am. Even when my students are terribly mean and say things like, “You know you look pregnant, right? And you’re not pregnant.” I hope you are too.
What did you find of interest this week? Let me know in the comments!